Today's blog will be about the obvious unwillingness of individuals to help others. Is it me or has our society become a group selfish, ill-mannered, disrespectful jerks who go about their business with the mindset: "I swear I am not being nice to anyone today." As a woman, it annoys me to no end when I'm going into a business and a guy is in front of me and versus holding the door for the few seconds it would take me to catch up, most guys do the electric slide between the door and building to avoid touching it at all costs. Now, perhaps I'm being self-centered in thinking that they were intentionally going out of their way to not hold the door, and in reality, maybe they have some issues about germs, maybe it's my race, or maybe they don't find me attractive enough to hold the door. There is some truth to this. I find that when I'm dressed up, I get so much positive attention, and when I'm dressed down, I'm treated like a leopard. That brings me to my next issue, should those of us who are true advocates of mutual respect continue to be doormats for society?
The easiest solution would be to take a stand and intentionally be a disrespectful and inconsiderate @$$h*!!e to all with whom you come in contact. I've tried this tactic, but my results were met with the constant question, "Are you alright today?" Then of course, I try the same tactic, but this time, I do it with a smile, and low and behold, I get apologies left and right from others, when I'm the culprit. As the guilt of my mind games begin to take their toll on my spirituality, the Libra in me erupts, undoubtedly seeking some balance, and she forces me to go above and beyond niceness. At this point, kindness is now taken with a bit of caution and suspicion. Meanwhile, I begin to speculate the idea: As I have changed my behavior towards the world, the world has not changed. While, the individuals can change from day to day, there isn't too much that changes in my world. In conclusion, I can say, these were all failed attempts at trying to control something that is not within my control. However, needing to justify other's actions so that I am not spending the next week wondering why a co-worker would intentionally overlook me to ask someone else if they needed help, I have developed the "It's okay baby" strategy.
Although I'm sure there's some psychological term for this, I have adapted the "It's okay baby" method of coping with individuals who I feel are inconsiderate. The "It's okay baby" mentality allows me to dismiss the inconsiderate behavior of others as a result of their own incompetence or their lack of intelligence. Remember, this is my current coping method. It helps to raise my self-esteem by surrendering my feelings of being a victim, and still, it allows me to deal with the short-comings of a bad day. One day, I will get to the point where I will be able to just brush off the behavior of others as the devil having his way with them, but isn't that just as judgmental? Maybe people really are oblivious to how they treat others, and maybe there really are some people who don't possess the intelligence to know that they are being rude. Either way, I just wanted to write this in hopes that someone out there may pay more attention to their behavior to others. Furthermore, I hope to cope with life and all it's ups and downs.
